The most difficult part about relationships is speaking the truth in love when needed most to the one we love most.

We often fear to speak the truth in love to the one we love most because we fear losing that person and our relationship with them. Yet, the very fact we are willing to risk the relationship should affirm to them how much we TRULY love them. And, we must be ruled by God, not by fear.

So, speak the hard truths to those you love. But, first make sure you have a clear message from God for them. Also, make sure it comes from sincere motives and a pure heart instead of from your past history (of hurts) with them or from merely your frustration with them. Follow God's formula for healing conflict.

Go to them in private. If they will not listen to you, go back and take someone else with you that loves them. If they will not listen to either of you, and you mutually agree that family intervention is needed, take the problem before the family! But, first try to resolve the issue in private.

Ultimately, it comes down to them resolving their own hard isssues with the Holy Spirit's help. We can't fix anyone. Some of these hard issues are only going to be resolved with direct intervention by God or professional counseling. So, encourage them to seek God and godly counseling. Then, if family intervention is required, set a time and place to approach them. And, bring some oil for anointing!

Know that God loves you. Know that God loves them. Let them know that you love them and God loves them. Have no fear of truth spoken in love. Trust that love works.

If love will not work, nothing will.